I’ve come to realize that most of us have the tendency to live in the future – we think about what we need to do sooner, later, or eventually. It starts from the time we’re young – we want to grow up, finish school, be independent, make money, get married, buy a house, have kids, and freedom 55. And as adults we subconsciously wish, probably on a daily basis, that we were healthier, wealthier, and happier. By mentally living in the future, we fail to be in the present and unfortunately, miss those defining moments of happiness around us. The other day, as I paused to give thanks for my breakfast, I realized how lucky I was to have a choice every morning of what to eat for breakfast. And in that moment, I was happy and grateful. Being in the moment + Being appreciative = Being happy.
©2014 Susie Lee
Sometimes in order to move on, we need to let go of people (or things) in our lives. Occasionally, we have to let go for the sake of the other person so they can carry on with theirs. I’ve found letting go is hard but holding on is even harder. This painful process will tear your heart out and you’ll experience you’re not the same again. Life has a funny way of shaping us through our experiences, people and circumstances. Allow it to change you and reveal the next path before you.
Overtime, the act of letting go will restore your soul, re-balance your life and release your spirit. And the heart-strings that once used to tug so tight are now set free. So throw yourself into the wind and let go. Fall into the arms of emptiness and see what catches you. Close your eyes, walk away and take only the beautiful memories with you. Yes, your heart will ache, long and be desolate but ride out the wave of emotions and see where it carries you.
Trust that life will work out. Have faith that the days ahead of you will look brighter. And have the courage to face a new day. Open your palms and let go… and then wait to see what lands in your hands.
©2013 Susie Lee
At some point in our lives, it’s inevitable we’ll face disappointments. It might be with our career, relationships (or a lack of), health or the world at large. The good news is that disappointments come whenever we attempt to do anything great in our lives or for the world. The not so good news is that it’s closely followed by resistance, doubt, cynicism, or setbacks in the pursuit of that greatness.
Why this gloomy topic? Because I know some of us are in this journey right now. Disappointments will often crush determination with hopelessness, despair and “what’s the use?” Our minds and bodies will begin to shut down with weariness. I find when I’m in this place; it helps to step away from my efforts and rest. In the meantime, I connect with my family and friends for encouragement – drawing strength and wisdom from them. I, also, read books, get out in nature, watch movies and listen to songs that will inspire me, as it fills me up with love, light and life. After a period of time, I have the newfound energy to help me move forward with clarity, courage and creativity.
But I understand this overwhelming feeling of despair might be a heavy burden for some people to carry that they may decide to throw in the towel. For others, this feeling of despair may become a catalyst to grow stronger and wiser – fueling their passion, energy, and creativity. They can choose to remain in despair or see the undercurrent of hope. For many people, this is where the rubber meets the road.
My message to you is don’t give up on your convictions. Disappointments are a part of the journey; it’s a sign that you’re closer to success than when you first started. You’re an amazing being who is highly adaptable and strong-willed. When the weight of the world is crushing you – there’s still more inside of you. You can never be completely crushed unless you allow it. Continue to explore, discover, create and dream of a better world… and a better you.
© 2012 Susie Lee
*This article is dedicated to my aquaterra tv co-host Peter Ormesher
Anytime you suffer a setback or disappointment,
put your head down and plow ahead.
– Les Brown
Enthusiasm is followed by disappointment and even depression,
and then by renewed enthusiasm.
– Murray Gell-Mann
Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal;
it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.
– Eliza Tabor
One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.
– Henry Ward Beecher
The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire;
the size of your dream;and how you handle disappointment along the way.
– Robert Kiyosaki