It doesn’t take much for us to be happy in life. And often, it won’t even cost us any money. Here are 10 signs that you’re a truly happy person and if you’re not, here are 10 simple things to start adding to your day:
©2015 Susie Lee
Tag: Letting go
Words to Live By.
One of the hardest lessons in life…
How to remove stumbling blocks from living your best.
Living your best will change from day to day. It doesn’t mean having it all together or being happy all the time – it means doing your best under the circumstances that you’re in. Here are some ways I remove stumbling blocks from living my best. By no means is this an exhaustive list but it’s a start…
- Don’t hold onto grudges – it’ll only damage you and hold you back from fully living and loving.
- Work on building your character – keep your word, show up, and work hard.
- Be kind. Always.
- Stop being a people pleaser.
- Work hard and mind your own business.
- Don’t run away from pain but learn from it – it’ll make you stronger, wiser, and build character.
- Dream big and follow your heart.
- Don’t let anyone define you, especially your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife.
- When you say ‘yes’ to someone, make sure you’re not saying ‘no’ to yourself.
- Get to know and love yourself – embrace imperfections & brokenness because there’s beauty in those places.
- Discover the world, especially the world within you.
- Learn to love those who are difficult to love, this alone will either make you or break you.
- Have hope, faith, and love.
- Always believe the best, say the best, and think the best.
- Don’t compare your chapter 1 with someone else’s chapter 20.
- Always do your best even when no one’s watching.
- Don’t settle when it comes to dating – you’re worth the best.
- Learn to forgive others but especially yourself.
- Having a good attitude will make all the difference in the world.
- A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You won’t be able to go anywhere until you change it.
- Life always offers you a second chance, it’s called tomorrow.
- Loving is the hardest and the best thing we can do.
- You can’t start the next chapter in your life, if you keep re-reading the last one. Let go & move on without regrets.
- You can’t move on to the next chapter of your life, if you keep re-reading the last chapter.
- Stay humble.
- Never stop learning.
- Be thankful everyday.
- And it’s okay to not be okay. You don’t have to be happy and have it all together all the time. Let that emotion sit with you.
- Remember that your struggle is just part of your story. And one day, your story will inspire someone else.
- Lastly, do more of what makes you awesome!
What are some ways you live your best? I’d love to be inspired in hearing from you!
©2013 Susie Lee
Go ahead, I dare you to be crazy
Letting go is hard but…
Sometimes in order to move on, we need to let go of people (or things) in our lives. Occasionally, we have to let go for the sake of the other person so they can carry on with theirs. I’ve found letting go is hard but holding on is even harder. This painful process will tear your heart out and you’ll experience you’re not the same again. Life has a funny way of shaping us through our experiences, people and circumstances. Allow it to change you and reveal the next path before you.
Overtime, the act of letting go will restore your soul, re-balance your life and release your spirit. And the heart-strings that once used to tug so tight are now set free. So throw yourself into the wind and let go. Fall into the arms of emptiness and see what catches you. Close your eyes, walk away and take only the beautiful memories with you. Yes, your heart will ache, long and be desolate but ride out the wave of emotions and see where it carries you.
Trust that life will work out. Have faith that the days ahead of you will look brighter. And have the courage to face a new day. Open your palms and let go… and then wait to see what lands in your hands.
©2013 Susie Lee
Soul Searching | Letting Go
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching and this is what my soul found:
1. Practicing the art of being rather than doing (it’s harder than I thought).
2. Letting go of controlling people by asking them what they want and respecting their answer.
3. Letting go of being a super hero (example: people pleaser, solver and rescuer) by simply listening.
4. Not being upset by criticism or feeling elated by compliments.
5. True forgiveness means wanting the best for that person.
6. My identity is not what I do, what I have or what others say I am.
7. Letting go of expectations I put on myself, automatically releases expectations I unconsciously place on others.
8. Learning to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty.
9. Learning to graciously accept help from others.
10. True freedom means letting go of perfection.
My soul searching will be an on-going quest as I’m forever changing, learning and growing. May your journey take you into deeper and unchartered places that will bring freedom, renewal and exciting discovery of yourself.
© Susie Lee 2012
Giving Something Up in Exchange for Something Greater
Around this time of year, many Christians and Catholics from around the world observe Lent. They choose to abstain from certain foods or pleasurable activities for 40 days leading up to the single most important event of their faith, the resurrection of Jesus Christ, otherwise known as Easter. Some popular choices include, giving up desserts, taking time out from social media, refraining from deep fried foods, being caffeine-free or simply unplugging the TV… I know it sounds absurd, why would anyone want to give these up? It’s an annual spiritual pilgrimage believers go on to grow closer to God and grow stronger in their faith. So instead of surfing on their iPhone they might use that time to read their Bible or write in their journal. Or when tempted to reach for the sprinkle colored donut, they might see it as a reminder to pray for family, friends or the world around them. This may be a foreign, even strange, concept to those who aren’t familiar with Lent.
I believe this practice of ‘giving something up in exchange’ can benefit anyone. Your exchange may not be for spiritual reasons but you can make it deeply personal and meaningful. It can be giving up something tangible like your late night snacks to the intangible like a negative attitude? Or instead of giving up, why not take something on? Encourage a person everyday, ‘ungrudge’ those grudges, look on the brighter side of things, read to the elderly, become a Big Brother or Sister, write that book or take that class?
Over time, this practice will de-clutter the mind and create more space within the soul to grow. It will help you to focus by letting go of things that slowly steal your time or letting go of attitudes that unconsciously hold you back. I’m not advocating that vices are bad but I believe, sometimes, they have an invisible hold on us. How strong – only you would know. I’m confident that you will feel and see a difference within 40 days. If you’ve decided to take up this challenge, I would love to hear how your journey’s going – where it’s taking you and where you are.
I’ve heard it takes 21 days to break a habit and 30 days to retrain a new one. Hmm… This sounds vaguely like the New Year’s resolutions doesn’t it? And while we’re on that topic, how’s that going for you these days?
© 2012 Susie Lee
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