Inspirational – Page 14

How to be happy

August 25, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

Being happy is all relative. What makes me happy might not make another person happy. So do something that brings you life, joy and makes you feels energized. It’s important to incorporate things into your life that makes you happy because it keeps you in the moment and takes you out of your head. Feeling this way will give you a natural high, a mental and emotional break from the necessarily mundane daily tasks of your life. It’s also very therapeutic as it helps you to cope and conquer the battles you fight within and out of yourself. Whatever it is that makes you happy, may it draw you closer to embrace the fullness of life and to those around you.

Living under the shadow of not being good enough

August 6, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

Whether you’re a spouse, friend, parent or child, you may sometimes feels as though you’re not good enough because of how they treat you or how they say things to you. As a result you may feel insecure, insignificant or inadequate when you’re around them. And eventually fear will slowly begin to set in and you’ll try everything in your power to be ‘enough’ for them. But unfortunately your actions, motives, and thoughts will be driven by fear instead of coming from a place of love, freedom, and security. You wonder if you’re enough, you wonder if you’re making them happy, and overtime, you subconsciously begin to hide your true identity for fear of rejection or conflict. Often, you’ll feel like a hamster spinning frantically on its wheel but not going anywhere. At the end of it you’re exhausted, frustrated, and discouraged. And you bitterly realize your efforts are still not enough. You’re not enough.

The hard reality is you can be perfect and meet all their expectations but there’ll always be something that’s lacking in the eyes of the beholder because they’ll always find something else to be unhappy about. So stop trying. I repeat, s-t-o-p! You’re efforts are commendably futile.

Sometimes, people have a way of making you feel small or unimportant because it’s a reflection of what they feel about themselves or what lies within their own hearts. Perhaps they feel insecure or they have trouble loving and accepting themselves or maybe it’s just simply their expectations being placed on you. So remember, how they treat you is NOT a reflection of who you are but rather a reflection of who they are. Unconsciously, it’s how they see themselves and unfortunately they’re projecting this reality onto others, especially those closest to them.

You can’t live for others, at some point you have to start living and loving yourself. Once you begin to love and accept yourself, your confidence and strength will naturally diminish your fear and insecurity of not being good enough. Nothing or nobody will be able to bruise your self-confidence and make you feel unworthy. You’ll be in control of your feelings and you’ll empower your own life choices. You’ll no longer be dictated by what others think, say or do to you. You’ll be immune to their self-destructive ways because you see yourself through your eyes rather than through the eyes of what others think of you. Once you let go of pleasing people, you’ll begin to operate from a place of abundant joy and freedom.

The truth is you ARE enough, more than enough. You’re a beautiful, bright, brilliant and awe-inspiring human being. And yes you’re flawed but in your own perfect way it’s what makes you unique, unmatched and unparalleled to anyone in the history of mankind. Remember, believe and live as though you’re always enough… more than enough. Always.

It’s NEVER too late

June 5, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

It’s never too late. It’s never to late to start the career you’ve always dreamed of. It’s never too late to confess your love to the one who got away. It’s never too late to make changes in your current relationship(s). It’s never to late to try something new. It’s never to late to pursue, dream, or imagine. For life is full of surprises everyday. And, I believe, miracles still happen today. But we have to be willing to go out of a limb and take hold of the unknown. We need to be proactive rather than passive. We need to be bold, courageous, and take the chance. Sure, there’s no guarantee how life will turn out but at least you were willing to embrace all life had to offer without regrets. Here’s to beautiful beginnings and surprise endings. Fulfill the destiny you were meant to live.

Promise Yourself. Everyday.

May 4, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

Introvert vs. Extrovert

April 3, 2013 Susie Lee5 Comments

In my life, there are seasons where I’m an introvert and at other times an extrovert. I don’t believe we can define ourselves as one or the other because we’re gradually changing over time. Our moods are influenced by our outward circumstances and our attitudes are affected by our inner state of mind. We’re also, influenced by the people around us – we may take the backseat around those who are more exuberant than us or take the limelight around those who are quieter than us.

Lately, I’ve learned not to judge myself or put myself in a box. There’s no right or wrong, better or worse, good or bad. Rather we need to learn to embrace the mystery of who we are in the different stages of life. We’re both wonderful and beautiful, simple yet complicated, whole yet broken. There are so many contradictions within us, so many colours of emotions, so many arrays of thoughts, things we do in the shadows of our intent. There wouldn’t be enough lifetimes to discover everything about ourselves because we’re constantly changing. Be self aware but not self-critical. Let it lead you to a place of beauty, truth and love of yourself.

“Golf balls, pebbles & beer: An analogy for life”

March 26, 2013 Susie Lee3 Comments

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes. ’The professor then produced two beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. ’Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions — and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else – the small stuff. ’If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.

Take care of the golf balls first— the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend.

– by Author Unknown

Everyday Wisdom to Live By

March 20, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

21 Suggestions For Success

March 8, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

You Must. You Absolutely Must. No Regrets.

March 1, 2013 Susie LeeLeave a comment

This week I’m going for it! The very thing I’m scared of, I’m going to do. Why? Because I don’t want to live in the ‘what ifs’ and have the fear of failure paralyze me. I want to stop making excuses of why I can’t and start giving myself reasons of why I can. I can, not because I’ll succeed but just because I CAN. And sometimes, that’s all the reason I need.

My advice to you this week is just “GO FOR IT!” The thing you want to do, the thing you were thinking about, the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Do it. Really. Don’t over think. Just do it. And next time, it might not be as hard. Now that’s living.